Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop and you literally block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith. #blog

What happened when I decided to put on your big girl pants on and overcome my fears? Guess what? I took a little break, hopped in my car and got on the road. Yeah, I did. I took little time away from work, daily routine and allow my body to replenish, repair itself, a little time out to reflect, to refresh and renew your mind. Away from from the norms.

 It wasn’t long enough though but just what I needed. In results, I got to see the Dolphins and sharks, enjoyed the beautiful water, site seeing….I saw the rainbow, the sunset, the beautiful sky….the ocean…did fun activities and I got to spend time with my beautiful sweet youngest sister. We catched up, girl talk, laughed, fellowshiped, the long walks and the long talks…break bread together, shopped and reminisced….  Great time! 

Sister time! 

Sister? 💕 

My Sister. She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. Some days, she’s the reason you wish you were an only child. You can kid the world but not your sister. Family is everything. I am Blessed with 5 sisters and I won’t complain.

The girls and I have been missing her a lot since she’s moved to Virginia. 

This may be small and has no value for some but for me it is big. I did something that I never saw myself doing and I couldn’t be any more proud of myself. 

So much has changed for me and the girls over the last few years which makes going on vacation by ourselves sometimes impossible. I find it hard to get up and go on a 3 to 7 days trip from Atlanta to a brand new state/country/resort on vacation with 2 small little girls. From packing at home, airports, hotels, car rentals to final destination, 2 kids, I just can’t. It can overwhelming. LOL It can be tricky and confusing sometimes….hah! With all kinds of craziness going on the news about our children’s safety while on vacation over the last few weeks. As a (single) mother, call me crazy but I can’t be any more careful. I think of all the fun things we can do but I just don’t think it’s safe “in my limited overly careful mindset” to fully enjoy all the fun activities in a large, new and busy environment while vacationing. We have always gone on vacations but thanks to our family and closed friends who have always made room for us and allowed us to travel with them but never by ourselves. Although this trip wasn’t necessarily at a big resort by ourselves but to step out and get on the road like we did was a big leap of faith for me. 

We took several trips over the last 4yrs but those who knows me well know how much I love love road trips but one thing I always said that I will NEVER do is to get in a car for (3-8hrs) long with 2 princesses by myself. Well, I put on my Superwoman cape on and to be honest I don’t know what I was thinking and what triggered this sudden change of mind but I drove 8.5 hrs from ATL to Virginia and had the best time with the best behaved children ever. The lord has been faithful to me in every areas of my life from the little things to the big things. I literally never thought I could do this! My fear made me thing and see things through my own lenses where faith gave me the confidence to trust and believe that all things are possible. When I said that I can’t and won’t, God said yes you can and yes you will and He made them possible. He prove me wrong every time. I am an OVERCOMER! “With man this is impossible, but God ALL things are possible.” Matthew 19:26

 So, my time In Virginia was a blessing to me in so many levels but I was not only able to enjoy some time away with the girls and my sister but to reflect on God’s beauty and His faithfulness.

 I remembered how quiet it was in the car after the long fun filled day was over. I said to myself, we can try one more adventure or another site seeing. Them I looked back and saw both girls fell asleep.  Their neck positioned….poor thing! Hillarious! They couldn’t hang no more. I loved it!😄

At that point, I feel accomplished. I had fun! They had fun! Fear got me trapped and wrapped around his little fingers and got me thinking that I couldn’t do this or that.  What was I thinking? Allowing my fear to speak louder than my faith. Allowed fear to control me. Who am I to lean on my own understanding instead of trusting God to help me live my life to the fullest.

 Them I was reminded of one of my favorite scripture: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;’ – Proverbs 3:5. 

Truth is, fear is a lie. Fear is a habit, so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves,” I can! and I will!” Fear paralyzes your faith and hinder you from moving forward. Fear takes away your confidence and limits you form living your life to its full potential. Fear is not of God. “For God has not given us a spirit of fear….”- 2 timothy 1:7. 
This past few days have thought me to learn totally on God, trust In Him fully as I continue to walk in victory over my fears daily in this journey called life. Ain’t God good? How great how his works? How beautiful are His creations? He is Sovereign and In control over all things including our doubts, fears, anxieties and uncertainties. Do not fear! Surrender them all to Him.

“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.’” Isaiah 43:1b-2 (NIV)

In the NIV bible, there are more than 300 scripture verses on fear; these are just a few. Read through the list, find a few favorites, and memorize them. Better yet, print a copy and keep it in your handbag or computer bag! When you find yourself waiting- such as carpool, at a doctor appointment, or for a class to begin- pull out the list and read it.

For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 NLT

Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has been pleased to give you the kingdom. Luke 12:32 NIV

The angel of the LORD encamps around those who fear him, and he delivers them. Psalm 34:7 NIV

So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. Matt 10:31 NIV

Serve only the Lord your God and fear him alone. Obey his commands, listen to his voice, and cling to him. Deuteronomy 13:4 NLT

I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid. John 14:27 NLT

This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9 NLT

But even if you suffer for doing what is right, God will reward you for it. So don’t worry or be afraid of their threats. 1 Peter 3:14 NLT

One night the Lord spoke to Paul in a vision and told him, “Don’t be afraid! Speak out! Don’t be silent! Acts 18:9 NLT

Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 1 John 4:18 NLT

When I am afraid, I put my trust in you. Psalm 56:3 NIV

In God, whose word I praise— in God I trust and am not afraid. What can mere mortals do to me? Psalm 56:4 NIV

He will cover you with his feathers. He will shelter you with his wings. His faithful promises are your armor and protection. Do not be afraid of the terrors of the night, nor the arrow that flies in the day. Do not dread the disease that stalks in darkness, nor the disaster that strikes at midday. Though a thousand fall at your side, though ten thousand are dying around you, these evils will not touch you. Psalm 91:4-8 NLT

They do not fear bad news; they confidently trust the Lord to care for them. Psalm 112:7 NLT

Do not tremble; do not be afraid. Did I not proclaim my purposes for you long ago? You are my witnesses—is there any other God? No! There is no other Rock—not one! Isaiah 44:8 NLT

I, am the one who comforts you. So why are you afraid of mere humans, who wither like the grass and disappear? Isaiah 51:12 NLT

Be not afraid of them [their faces], for I am with you to deliver you, says the Lord. Jeremiah 1:8 Amplified

But Jesus overheard them and said to Jairus, “Don’t be afraid. Just have faith.”Mark 5:36 NLT

They had rowed three or four miles when suddenly they saw Jesus walking on the water toward the boat. They were terrified, but he called out to them, “Don’t be afraid. I am here!” John 6:19-20 NLT

“Don’t be afraid,” Moses answered them, “for God has come in this way to test you, and so that your fear of him will keep you from sinning!” Exodus 20:20 NLT

You must always act in the fear of the Lord, with faithfulness and an undivided heart. 2 Chronicles 19:9 NLT

The Lord is a friend to those who fear him. He teaches them his covenant. Psalm 25:14 NLT

But the Lord watches over those who fear him, those who rely on his unfailing love. Psalm 33:18 NLT

I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me. He freed me from all my fears. Psalm 34:4 NLT

Fear the Lord, you his godly people, for those who fear him will have all they need. Psalm 34:9 NLT

The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him. Psalm 103:13 NLT

Fear of the Lord leads to life, bringing security and protection from harm. Proverbs 19:23 NLT

True humility and fear of the Lord lead to riches, honor, and long life. Proverbs 22:4 NLT

Fearing people is a dangerous trap, but trusting the Lord means safety. Proverbs 29:25 NLT

Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised. Proverbs 31:30 NLT

He will be your sure foundation, providing a rich store of salvation, wisdom, and knowledge. The fear of the Lord will be your treasure. Isaiah 33:6 NLT

Say to those with fearful hearts, “Be strong, and do not fear, for your God is coming to destroy your enemies. He is coming to save you.” Isaiah 35:4 NLT

Listen to me, you who know right from wrong you who cherish my law in your hearts. Do not be afraid of people’s scorn, nor fear their insults. Isaiah 51:7 NLT

Fear not; you will no longer live in shame. Don’t be afraid; there is no more disgrace for you. You will no longer remember the shame of your youth and the sorrows of widowhood. Isaiah 54:4 NLT

For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears.He will rejoice over you with joyful songs. Zephaniah 3:17 NLT

Don’t be afraid of those who want to kill your body; they cannot touch your soul. Fear only God, who can destroy both soul and body in hell. Matt 10:28 NLT

We have been rescued from our enemies so we can serve God without fear, in holiness and righteousness for as long as we live. Luke 1:74-75 NLT

And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. Romans 8:38 NLT

We faced conflict from every direction, with battles on the outside and fear on the inside. But God, who encourages those who are discouraged, encouraged us by the arrival of Titus. His presence was a joy. 2 Corinthians 7:5-6 NLT

Since we are receiving a Kingdom that is unshakable, let us be thankful and please God by worshiping him with holy fear and awe. Hebrews 12:28 NLT

Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 1 John 4:18 NLT

“Fear God,” he shouted. “Give glory to him. For the time has come when he will sit as judge. Worship him who made the heavens, the earth, the sea, and all the springs of water.” Revelation 14:7 NLT

And from the throne came a voice that said, “Praise our God, all his servants, all who fear him, from the least to the greatest.” Revelation 19:5 NLT

Even though I walk through the darkest valley,I will fear no evil, for you are with me Psalm 23:4 NIV

Do not be afraid of anyone, for judgment belongs to God. Deuteronomy 1:17 NIV

Do not be afraid of them; the LORD your God himself will fight for you. Deuteronomy 3:22 NIV

The LORD is my light and my salvation— whom shall I fear? The LORD is the stronghold of my life— of whom shall I be afraid? Psalm 27:1 NIV

He said to his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?” Mark 4:40 NIV

Jesus told him, “Don’t be afraid; just believe.” Mark 5:36 NIV

Then he placed his right hand on me and said: “Do not be afraid. I am the First and the Last. Revelation 1:17 NIV

Fear loses its power when we actively trust God more than what we fear. Let’s ask God to show us what we are afraid of. What is paralyzing our faith and keeping us from living confidently in His peace and freedom? And then let’s give God a chance to come through for us as we courageously walk through our fears, holding God’s hand and trusting His heart to lead, protect and preserve us each step of the way.


2 thoughts on “Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop and you literally block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith. #blog”

  1. This was very inspiring. Congratulations are in order. This also brings back memories great ones for me. Every story should be heard and you have published some good. Ones hope you will put them together.in a book later it will be a good read

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